Musings on Spiritual Matters

My dear mentor Burnice Wesbrooks always taught me to handle all situations in life with class.  Sometimes this might be difficult, as you have the desire to “get people back” or to “get revenge” but one must fight this impulse.  As a minister people will not always treat you right in your mind, and sometimes it is true, you have been mistreated and sometimes it is just in your mind.  Regardless of this, still handle the situation with class.  So what does this mean?  How do you be classy when others are not.  Here are some suggestions.

1. Think about the perspective of the other party.  It is easy to see a situation from your own eyes.  So do everything possible to see the situation from the other parties eyes.  Also, in this approach, assign positive motives to them.  Even if the person does not have them, mostly they believe that they do.  And the person will never admit that he or see has done wrong.  It was done in the name of the Lord, and you cannot convince them that it was not.  So in reacting, think hard and long about the other person’s feelings and desires.  What is the motivation, and relate to it.  Let them feel understood.

2. Think about the humble approach.  My mentor always stated “just be humble.”  You are going to get attacked, so deal with it.  You can raise up and fight, or you can take the approach of Jesus before Pilate, “it is what you say.”  Pilate was amazed that Jesus did not defeat himself, so sometimes it is best that you do not either.  This is hard to do, especially if there is falsehood stated about you, and accusations that are untrue, but trust the Lord, and He will make it right.

3. Do not count wrongs, but count blessings.  It can be hard when people wrong you, and it is easy to remember those times.  But the Lord is good, and he provides more opportunities than most men can handle.  You will be blessed if you think about the blessings that the Lord has given instead of the wrongs that man has inflicted, and you will realize quickly that the ledger is not even close.  God has been a lot better than the behavior of man.  God will always reward more than man will take away.

I hope these suggestions help.  I also am thankful for a mentor that taught me balance and grace.  When you look back in life, you will never regret handling situations with class.

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