Comments on: Rules to Handle Criticism http://www.matthewmorine.com/church-news/rules-to-handle-criticism/629/ by Matthew Morine Thu, 09 Sep 2010 23:29:06 -0500 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.5 hourly 1 By: Rex http://www.matthewmorine.com/church-news/rules-to-handle-criticism/629/comment-page-1/#comment-5797 Rex Wed, 10 Sep 2008 03:29:32 +0000 http://matthewsblog.waynesborochurchofchrist.org/?p=629#comment-5797 Leon, Thanks for reminding us of the difference between destructive and constructive criticism. I try to always remember that I need to be redemptive in all I do. Thus, if my criticism is not redemptive then it probably will only alienate rather than correct. -Rex Leon,

Thanks for reminding us of the difference between destructive and constructive criticism. I try to always remember that I need to be redemptive in all I do. Thus, if my criticism is not redemptive then it probably will only alienate rather than correct.

-Rex

]]> By: Leon Cole http://www.matthewmorine.com/church-news/rules-to-handle-criticism/629/comment-page-1/#comment-5796 Leon Cole Wed, 10 Sep 2008 00:58:37 +0000 http://matthewsblog.waynesborochurchofchrist.org/?p=629#comment-5796 These are well placed suggestions. We do have to remember there is both destructive and construtive criticism. Years ago I missed a point in a Bible class an elder, who was also my next door neighbor, waited a few days and then called and asked me when I had time to come over. He just told me in a very kind fashion that he thought I had missed a point he was kind in his approach had no desire to call me down or show me up publicly but "taught me the way more perfectly". I have always tried to follow his example. He was one of the best men I ever knew. Criticism directed and treated this way is most helpful. These are well placed suggestions. We do have to remember there is both destructive and construtive criticism. Years ago I missed a point in a Bible class an elder, who was also my next door neighbor, waited a few days and then called and asked me when I had time to come over. He just told me in a very kind fashion that he thought I had missed a point he was kind in his approach had no desire to call me down or show me up publicly but “taught me the way more perfectly”. I have always tried to follow his example. He was one of the best men I ever knew. Criticism directed and treated this way is most helpful.

]]> By: Matthew http://www.matthewmorine.com/church-news/rules-to-handle-criticism/629/comment-page-1/#comment-5794 Matthew Tue, 09 Sep 2008 22:30:50 +0000 http://matthewsblog.waynesborochurchofchrist.org/?p=629#comment-5794 In no way Terry, I felt that you were defensive. Remember, we want to discuss ideas on here. Eddy, that is a good fog, sometimes you have to do this. The Bible says to not fight with a fool. Trey, thank you, you have one of the best blogs in cyber space. Rex, great story and attitude. People like that elder are the reason people can grow in the Lord. Proverbs states to not reject the advice from a wiseman. In no way Terry, I felt that you were defensive. Remember, we want to discuss ideas on here. Eddy, that is a good fog, sometimes you have to do this. The Bible says to not fight with a fool. Trey, thank you, you have one of the best blogs in cyber space. Rex, great story and attitude. People like that elder are the reason people can grow in the Lord. Proverbs states to not reject the advice from a wiseman.

]]> By: Terry http://www.matthewmorine.com/church-news/rules-to-handle-criticism/629/comment-page-1/#comment-5790 Terry Tue, 09 Sep 2008 19:59:42 +0000 http://matthewsblog.waynesborochurchofchrist.org/?p=629#comment-5790 I would also like to apologize for being defensive (with a couple of your readers) in my comments on your blog a few weeks ago. I should have been following this advice back then. Thanks for your patience with me! I would also like to apologize for being defensive (with a couple of your readers) in my comments on your blog a few weeks ago. I should have been following this advice back then. Thanks for your patience with me!

]]> By: Terry http://www.matthewmorine.com/church-news/rules-to-handle-criticism/629/comment-page-1/#comment-5788 Terry Tue, 09 Sep 2008 19:32:53 +0000 http://matthewsblog.waynesborochurchofchrist.org/?p=629#comment-5788 I'll try to find the book. Thanks for some good advice, Matthew. I’ll try to find the book. Thanks for some good advice, Matthew.

]]> By: eddy http://www.matthewmorine.com/church-news/rules-to-handle-criticism/629/comment-page-1/#comment-5787 eddy Tue, 09 Sep 2008 19:01:56 +0000 http://matthewsblog.waynesborochurchofchrist.org/?p=629#comment-5787 "Fog" that I learned years ago--"Thank you, I'll be sure to give that all the attention it deserves." (Sometimes it deserves years of attention; sometimes two seconds.) On my good days, I ask my critics to pray with/for me about the given matter. Even if the issue is not changed, framing it in prayer gives a healthy beginning to sorting out chaff/substance. “Fog” that I learned years ago–”Thank you, I’ll be sure to give that all the attention it deserves.” (Sometimes it deserves years of attention; sometimes two seconds.) On my good days, I ask my critics to pray with/for me about the given matter. Even if the issue is not changed, framing it in prayer gives a healthy beginning to sorting out chaff/substance.

]]> By: Trey Morgan http://www.matthewmorine.com/church-news/rules-to-handle-criticism/629/comment-page-1/#comment-5784 Trey Morgan Tue, 09 Sep 2008 16:14:56 +0000 http://matthewsblog.waynesborochurchofchrist.org/?p=629#comment-5784 Excellent points. Anytime you're in ministry you have to be able to handle criticism in a healthy way. You make good points. I did a post on the subject a few months ago that dealt with it too. If you're interested just click the link above. I like your blog. Excellent points. Anytime you’re in ministry you have to be able to handle criticism in a healthy way. You make good points. I did a post on the subject a few months ago that dealt with it too. If you’re interested just click the link above.

I like your blog.

]]> By: Rex http://www.matthewmorine.com/church-news/rules-to-handle-criticism/629/comment-page-1/#comment-5782 Rex Tue, 09 Sep 2008 15:48:04 +0000 http://matthewsblog.waynesborochurchofchrist.org/?p=629#comment-5782 The best criticism I ever received was from an elder who began by asking my permission to share a critical point with me. His criticism was accepted as a loving concern with my best interest in mind. Now I try to remember that approach when and if I must critique someone else. ...I have also learned not to take myself to seriously, that way some of the unnecessary criticism is not so bothersome. -Rex The best criticism I ever received was from an elder who began by asking my permission to share a critical point with me. His criticism was accepted as a loving concern with my best interest in mind. Now I try to remember that approach when and if I must critique someone else. …I have also learned not to take myself to seriously, that way some of the unnecessary criticism is not so bothersome.

-Rex

]]> By: Joe http://www.matthewmorine.com/church-news/rules-to-handle-criticism/629/comment-page-1/#comment-5781 Joe Tue, 09 Sep 2008 14:47:35 +0000 http://matthewsblog.waynesborochurchofchrist.org/?p=629#comment-5781 There is a type of critiscim that is meant to inflict pain and control people. Then there is the type that is of love and is intended to give productive feedback for improvement. There is a type of critiscim that is meant to inflict pain and control people. Then there is the type that is of love and is intended to give productive feedback for improvement.

]]> By: Matthew http://www.matthewmorine.com/church-news/rules-to-handle-criticism/629/comment-page-1/#comment-5778 Matthew Tue, 09 Sep 2008 14:15:28 +0000 http://matthewsblog.waynesborochurchofchrist.org/?p=629#comment-5778 Buy and read the book. It is the best. Buy and read the book. It is the best.

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